Gwyneth Paltrow has opened up about the ‘wrath’ she still feels years after her trust was violated by someone close to her.
The Marty Supreme star, 53, told Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel if she put those angry feelings into words, ‘it would be really shocking,’ during Tuesday’s episode of the Goop podcast, AI and Modern Dating.
‘I was thinking about a situation where somebody broke my trust and I have, like, sort of wrath around it,’ Paltrow shared.
‘I was like, “Wow. This is such a strong feeling of wrath.” If I was saying my inner dialogue out loud right now, it would be really shocking.’
The situation, she said, happened ‘a number of years ago,’ but still preys on her mind.
Paltrow, whose culinary tips have left some fans disgusted, didn’t reveal any more details about the person who injured her but added: ‘I was still really caught by the feeling, like, these incredibly big feelings around [it]. But that’s universal, right? If you really trust somebody and they betray you?’
Gwyneth Paltrow – seen on March 1 in Los Angeles – has opened up about the ‘wrath’ she still feels years after her trust was violated by someone close to her
The Oscar winner, 53, said if she put those angry feelings into words, ‘it would be really shocking,’ during Tuesday’s episode of the Goop podcast, AI and Modern Dating
The Oscar winner pressed: ‘I was wondering, is this everybody when they feel betrayed?’
Perel, the author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity, told Paltrow that someone betraying you is one thing, but if that person doesn’t account for their behavior it can lead to the victim struggling to trust themselves.
‘The next consequence of the breach of trust or the violation of trust is when I stop trusting myself as a result of it,’ Perel explained.
‘Because I’ve had faith in you and because I knew who I put my trust in, with you doing that to me, you now make me distrust myself. I’ve lost my confidence. I’m constantly waiting and watching to see if other people will do something to me because of you.’
The expert on modern relationships, intimacy and sexuality added that the offending person could have been out of your life for ’10 years,’ but the hurt may still linger.
The conversation turned to the subject of infidelity and how couples can heal after such an episode.
‘How people are able to take this incredible… because it’s a breach of trust. Right? You always have one eye open,’ Paltrow went on. ‘How do couples really who’ve experienced infidelity, is there a true way back to trust?’
When Paltrow weighed the seriousness of cheating ‘on a business trip’ against ‘having a serious girlfriend’ on the side, Perel stated: ‘To some people, a one night stand is as painful as a 20-year affair.’
Paltrow told Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel that the situation with this certain person happened ‘a number of years ago,’ but still preys on her mind
Paltrow was told that the offending person could have been out of her life for ’10 years,’ but the hurt may still linger and she may even distrust herself
Paltrow – pictured on March 12 in Rome, Italy – didn’t volunteer any names or offer any more details on the ‘situation’ with her former friend
The amateur chef – pictured whipping up another meal in her Montecito kitchen – did mention a certain ‘frenemy’ in a 2009 Goop newsletter and how she felt ‘happiness’ when she heard the individual had fallen on bad times
While Paltrow didn’t volunteer any names, she did mention a certain ‘frenemy’ in a 2009 Goop newsletter and how she felt ‘happiness’ when she heard the individual had fallen on bad times.
‘Back in the day, I had a “frenemy” who, as it turned out, was pretty hell-bent on taking me down. This person really did what they could to hurt me,’ she wrote at the time, according to Page Six.
‘I was deeply upset, I was angry, I was all of those things you feel when you find out that someone you thought you liked was venomous and dangerous.’
She added: ‘I restrained myself from fighting back. I tried to take the high road. But one day I heard that something unfortunate and humiliating had happened to this person. And my reaction was deep relief and… happiness.’
